Show Up Uncut
Welcome to "Show Up Uncut," a podcast where two fierce ladies bring you unfiltered conversations on business, health, fitness, and mindset.
Join us for an unapologetic exploration of the highs, lows, and everything in between as we share raw, real-life stories from the trenches of SHOWING UP. From crushing goals in business to smashing personal best at the gym, we're here to inspire and empower you to show up fully in every aspect of your life. Get ready for straight talk, bold insights, and unwavering authenticity as we dive deep into what it takes to succeed in business and beyond. Tune in and get ready to elevate your game with "Show Up Uncut"!
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Here's to New Beginnings
What happens when life's curveballs force you to reassess everything? Join us on Show Up Uncut with Em and Jess as we navigate the whirlwind of personal and professional changes we've faced over the past six weeks. Em opens up about her ongoing recovery from illness and the exciting new relationship that blossomed post-vacation. Meanwhile, Jess shares her bombshell news about rekindling things with her ex and discovering she's pregnant, shedding light on how these developments are reshaping her outlook on life and priorities.
Parenthood and professional ambitions collide as we explore the seismic shifts in our personal lives and businesses. Jess dives into how pregnancy has transformed her from a self-focused achiever to a more nurturing, family-oriented mindset. We both discuss the delicate art of juggling body composition goals with the demands of impending parenthood and how our newfound relationships are altering our daily routines and financial habits. The dialogue is rich with reflections on the importance of shared experiences and gratitude for life's evolving journey.
Change is never easy, but it's a constant companion in our lives. We emphasize the value of embracing growth, from handling the mental hurdles of expanding a business to learning the art of relinquishing control. Tune in for insights on self-care amidst parenting duties, the importance of taking small steps to overcome fear, and the power of a supportive, team-oriented dynamic in relationships. Plus, don’t miss our light-hearted moments and a sneak peek into future episodes, where we’ll spill the beans on our love lives and much more!
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Welcome back to Show Up Uncut with Em and Jess. So, what's been going on?
Speaker 2:How long has it been since we've been on here?
Speaker 1:I feel like Like six weeks A lot's changed.
Speaker 2:Yes, I was sick last time.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's right, A lot has changed.
Speaker 2:Yes, we're actually thinking about releasing these podcasts Weekly, on a weekly basis. So if anyone's listening and you think that that would be a fantastic idea, let us know and I'll convince Em to do it. I'm just like that's a lot of time in the broadcast studio, but I'm here for it. Look if we're getting the listeners, I feel like it's worth it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it is For sure so.
Speaker 2:So what are we're gonna talk about? Change, because we were sitting here talking about like, how much has um obviously changed over the last six, eight weeks? So a little bit of context. When we were here last, we did our two guest speakers and um only just got back from Europe.
Speaker 1:And I was so fucking sick.
Speaker 2:She was sick, and then we finished the podcast and we went outside and I was like so I've got something to tell you.
Speaker 1:She was pregnant.
Speaker 2:She goes you're not pregnant, are you?
Speaker 1:I was like, wait, what she got back with her ex and she was pregnant. I was like this, what she got back with her ex and she was pregnant. I was like this is a lot. Yeah, I've been away for two months and I come back and there's a lot going on, but I mean I was a bit the same. I kind of come back and I was like, yeah, I just had a six-week holiday and now I'm seeing someone.
Speaker 2:Literally yeah, within that week or something, wasn't it? Yeah, no, you were going on a date that night.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I got off the plane, went on a date with him and then we've been together ever since, so thank you Love birds, love birds.
Speaker 2:But yeah, mind you, we were like as much as this is so annoying.
Speaker 1:I like, as you can see, I'm playing around with this because, like it's in my view of Jess.
Speaker 2:So my view of Jess, so let me just like you need it.
Speaker 1:It's doing my head in. I feel like this. I don't know just the way. I'll just sit like this.
Speaker 2:If you see me on the podcast, I'll slouch over it just so I can see her you need to bring it in and down but it's like yeah, like this, but then and then like pull it up yeah, okay, there we we go, we're good, a little bit of context. I actually was. So my ex-partner now partner. He was it sounds so funny.
Speaker 1:He's the one we've been talking a lot of shit about on the podcast. No, so Growth, people, growth, people change.
Speaker 2:It is no. So growth, people, growth, it can change. It is, and there was a quote that sonia actually said in that last podcast, which was what is for you will not go past you, and I think, like as much as I had spoken about him in like positive and negative ways, I feel like, and it's not so much like a negative, like he's a shit person because I wouldn't be in this position.
Speaker 1:I think it was more so, just like the places that you guys were both in you weren't on the same level, of the same wavelength, like you were kind of like doing this and he was doing that, it wasn't.
Speaker 2:It wasn't like aligning yeah, and there's many things that I've kind of reflected on myself, that I realized, like in past relationships, like with him, that I wasn't honoring what he wanted from a relationship.
Speaker 2:I was like fuck off, like 100% and he actually went through like a period where he was caring for his uncle and that's why we reconnected.
Speaker 2:So his uncle had brain cancer and he was full-time carer for him. He stopped working full-time to look after his uncle and I, I think, just seeing the growth in that, like within him, the patience and the nurturing side of him that he's always had, but I guess, like it just was amplified even more from the experience, like that life-changing experience that he had gone through and his uncle unfortunately has passed. But it was crazy how it kind of like I guess, lined up and we were talking and you knew, like I was talking to Logan and I was, you know, in and out of, like you know I guess I wanted to be with him. But it was also that mindset of going like fuck, what if it's going to be like how it used to be? And the universe, and also him, has proved all the opposite things of to what it used to be like it's. It's completely different. So that's kind of where we're basing this podcast on is like not only where I currently am, but also with em, her new partner. We've both got business coaches.
Speaker 1:Now I've just brought a coach on myself um onto primal, and then m's hiring another person yeah, I've got um, I've got sonia who was on the podcast that we literally got off that and I'm like you're coming to work for me um but yeah, literally that day yeah, it's been really good.
Speaker 1:I feel like it's so weird. I feel like, for so many people that I've spoken to, shit's just changing and aligning, like whether it's like people getting out of toxic relationships, like they may be in a shit place right now. Like one of my friends is going through it. She may be in a shit place right now, but I'm like it's going to get better. Like this is a positive thing, you're out of that toxic, abusive fucking relationship. This is a positive thing. Like it'll get better, you know. And then like, for me personally, like you know, I've got AJ, who is like dead set, a fucking godsend. Like I'm literally like I can't. I'm like he starts every day. I'm like how can? Where did you come from?
Speaker 2:Like.
Speaker 1:I just never thought that like this existed for me and he's just like fucking amazing. But like, yeah, I've got him in my life. Now I've obviously got Sonia on as a business coach. Um, which has been fucking amazing.
Speaker 1:Like highly recommend getting a business coach because, like they're just so fucking worth it, like the best investment I've made for myself and for my business. It's really good. And yeah, I'm looking for either a senior hairdresser or a third-year apprentice. So if you're interested, hit me up. I'm a fucking good boss, but yeah, so we're just going to basically talk about like change and navigating that Like.
Speaker 1:Basically talk about like change and navigating that like, because I guess for both me and jess now too, like me now having a partner, I am more so focused and I've got a lot of events on this year, right like I had my sister's wedding, I'm a part of a fucking wedding. I've got another wedding, I've got a fucking fucking hands next year, like it's just like a lot happening for me. So right now my priorities have just switched from, you know, just as a bit the same, like we're both like kind of like going through phases, like in the bodybuilding world, of like cutting, building, cutting building, maintaining or whatever whereas now for me, my priorities lie within different aspects of my life, so bodybuilding isn't really.
Speaker 1:It's kind of been put on the back burner.
Speaker 1:I'll obviously get back into it one day but right now I'm just trying to navigate, like you know, like stripping all that back and prioritizing other things in my life and kind of just trying to get used to that. Like I've been very like you know, not that like back in the day I've spoken briefly about my eating disorder that I had and I noticed that before I went to Europe I was so fucking strict on myself man, like I would literally fucking not go out and not drink because I'd be like even if I was in a build, I was like I have to hit these macros 100 and like I just sacrificed so much for it when I didn't have to. And so I think that like europe was honestly one of the best things for me in that aspect, because I was able to literally like remove myself from it and like go to europe.
Speaker 1:I didn't put on any fucking weight, mind you, I mean I looked sloppy as fuck, but like I didn't put any weight and it was a good thing for me, it kind of rewired my brain because it was like you're not gonna fucking get fat or this isn't gonna happen, like I don't know.
Speaker 2:I started to become a bit toxic within that whole thing I think, like with bodybuilding as well, like I actually read this quote and it's like, if you can't, if you can't go to sleep every night without thinking about it, like is it if you go to bed every night, if you go to bed every night thinking about kind of fucking remember?
Speaker 2:this is yeah, it's been bad, so bad. Um, if yeah, something around like the words of if you can't go to bed, if you go to bed every night thinking about it, then it's meant to be. Yeah, so like for me, I used to go to bed every night fucking thinking about, you know, competing and being like onto that next level, so was I whereas now, like you know what I mean, like yes, but you get consumes you yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:And you're like if, when your priorities start to change, like you know for yourself, you're navigating a new relationship, you're growing the business even more, like it's not, like you're completely forgetting about your goals in regards to your body composition and your training.
Speaker 1:I'm making my entire fucking life about it.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, and I feel like that. You know you're going to go through phases of life and every little phase that you go through it's all temporary. So you might come out like you know're going to go through phases of life and every every little phase that you go through it's all temporary. So you might come out, like you know, at the end of the next year and go let's fucking go yeah, like I'm ready to compete again, yeah or you know, I don't want to compete again.
Speaker 2:That's like. You know. That's the past me. Now I want to start a new business.
Speaker 1:I want to, you know whatever it is and I feel like already changed. Even with you like how are you now dealing with all of this being pregnant? Like that's a massive thing for you. It was actually really funny because when we had we had Keith on the podcast talking about like navigating, being a new father and all that sort of stuff. Keith fucking walks out the door and just is like so I got something to tell you. I'm like okay, well, this is what we're talking about.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, yeah, I know, because I was so intrigued. I'm like I want to know from a male, she seems very interested in this. Like obviously, but like yeah well, I look at people like that as like they're fucking superhumans like to even fucking legend, yeah definitely.
Speaker 2:Um, yeah, I feel like it has been such a I don't know like the journey. Obviously I'm nearly 20 weeks now, so I'm nearly halfway there, and I feel like for me, I don't know it's just opened my eyes to so much like what actually truly matters, and I think that's what even just being back in this relationship like I'm fucking, like I don't, like I'm not working late at night and neglecting my relationship, because I know that that's going to be. You know what's going. I want my child to to come into this world and see a nurturing.
Speaker 2:You know mum and dad and they love each other and they're kissing and you know what I mean like they have that strong relationship and I think falling pregnant has probably like. Marie actually said this to me the other day when I caught up with her. She's like I just love seeing you in this soft girl era because I've always been very like independent, masculine, like I've I'm getting this, this and this and like, yes, I'm hustling harder in the business, but I feel like the more I've kind of fallen into this, like the purpose is different.
Speaker 2:I'm not doing it for me anymore, like I'm doing it for Logan and my our child literally um, and and I think that's actually started to open up more opportunities for me and it's actually allowed me to learn how to push and pull. And don't get me wrong, like it's hard, because I even like this second trimester. I thought it would be so much, like I did have more energy, but I feel like I'm going.
Speaker 2:It's like waves like arms and flows kind of yeah but, like, the drive behind what I'm doing is completely different, whereas, like with bodybuilding, I feel like I was very selfish. Yeah, like it was, that's how I felt.
Speaker 1:Yeah like I felt like I just sacrificed yeah, selfish, but you also sacrificed so much and like, and that was like kind of at the expense of other people. So you know what I mean Like cause you just wouldn't do things or you wouldn't go here or whatever.
Speaker 1:But yeah, it's funny Cause, like when things do kind of change like in your life, like even me just meeting AJ, for example, like I'm just like, like I enjoy going and doing things with him and like obviously it's not great for the savings account because we do a lot of shit and spend a lot of money like what fuck? We're into lego now yeah, no, I've seen that that's an expensive thing we finished it, I was like, babe, can we get a big w?
Speaker 1:and he's like, no, we're not going to big w, so you can buy the fucking 400 hogwarts set. Okay, you know what I mean. Like I'm just like it's really nice. But yeah, it's like it's different, like it's just it's changed my perspective on life, to be honest, and, as you said, I now know what really matters. Like I'm a little bit more grateful for certain things as well. It's really weird.
Speaker 2:I, I don't know like pull back in a way of, because one thing that Logan actually said to me when we found out that you know we were going to have a child is like this is so much bigger than us now, so like all the little petty fights, or you know when you don't feel like doing anything like when you don't feel like you know doing X, y and Z. It's like you're not just doing it for yourself and I feel like you know doing X Y and Z.
Speaker 2:It's like you're not just doing it for yourself. Yeah, exactly, and I feel like you know, when you're in a relationship. I never had that perspective in a relationship. It was kind of like I've always seen my mum being a fucking hustler, Like she had five husbands. Yeah, I don't know if I've spoken about this on this podcast, but I know I have spoken about it, not at the same time.
Speaker 1:No, no, she had five husbands. She was a fucking hustler she always owned the house. She always like she was the one that provided, yeah, while they were there like kind of grew up, not like seeing.
Speaker 2:That's all I, all I've seen, yeah, so I feel like I've always had to be that person, like I've had to be the provider I've had to be X.
Speaker 2:Y and Z and yeah, I feel like when you're coming at it from a team, like you're being more of a team, like it just it makes things so much different and you can like as a woman and you would know this as well, like you can like as a woman and you would know this as well like you are like going back to like navigating change. Like it is so hard to fucking sit there and be like like let someone take care of you yeah, and let go of control as a mass.
Speaker 1:Yeah, let go of control. As masculine, we are both very masculine women and we always have to be like hustling and hustling and hustling, whereas, like yeah, it's nice to be able to be pulled back into your feminine and like you know, like because AJ's are very like, so we're so on the same wavelength, but like he's just a very softer, much softer person. I'm really like rah in your face. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:So we're like yin and yang, like it's sort of like we just really balance each other out, and so it's like been really nice for me, because a lot of the time I go for these fucking egotistical, fucking cunts basically that are like on fucking steroids and stuff, like it's just completely different, yeah, different for me and they're just like egotistical. They're super like fucking masculine and there's just like a clash. It's like you're like you know, anyway. Anyway, that's a little bit off track. Speak about that in a future episode.
Speaker 1:Um yeah, that'd be a good one actually but yeah, like, just like navigating change and, like you know, sort of like bringing yourself out of that masculine energy, I think has been like a massive thing for me over the last couple of weeks. Like I've just really like. I've been like you know, as I said, I've had all these events on. It's hard, though Like sometimes it can be such a mental fuck because you're like, but like genuinely, like I have been so much happier than what I have been, like it's been really nice, like just letting things flow.
Speaker 2:Flow yeah.
Speaker 1:And like, just like it is what it is, kind of thing rather than, like you know, pushing things away and just like letting things happen has been so good for me, because I think I don't deal well with change. I don't know about you, but like, say, something fucks up and goes wrong and it's out of my control. I am like freaking out and I'm like, how do I fix this? There's no way I can fix this. Like that's. One of my biggest flaws is that like and once I can't control something, I really struggle to deal with it. But over like the last few weeks, like even Sonia's kind of like helped me suffer myself in that sense, like just don't worry about the things you can't control, like just sort of let them go and like that's like just been a massive thing for me too, because I'm like like, with all these like little changes happening in my life, instead of being scared of change, I'm now like walking, welcoming it and like because, like, obviously, it comes with so much fucking growth.
Speaker 1:Like you know, I'm scared to put on, like I've spoken about the trauma around finances that covid caused me in my business. Like I like it was so fucking traumatic, I was basically fucking broke and so, like now for me, I'm like when I think about putting on another staff member, it was like, oh fuck, like what happens if, like, they're not making any money and I've got to carry their wage and then I'm not getting fucking paid, and, like you know, I just go back into this like toxic, like cycle, whereas, like, I need to not think about that right I need to like manifest good things and like that's I'm like really trying to manifest the right person, like I'm sorry, but I'm not gonna put any fucking random person on like.
Speaker 1:You have to be the right fit for me and the team because, like what you see on Instagram and how you guys see that we are, that is literally how we are, isn't? It like we're like a little happy family. Like you know, we obviously get work done but fuck, we have so much fun doing it and, like I just love that.
Speaker 2:That's like with Shay. I think that's my new coach that I've brought on.
Speaker 1:I have actually were you the same like, did you feel like taking on a person? Because like, right, this is my, this is my thinking. When you hire somebody and you have to pay their wage, you are then like in control of, like their family, their life.
Speaker 2:She just literally, like she, paid their bills she was doing 20 hours of admin at anytime fitness and then she does pt as well, so she's stopped at admin and I basically, like, brought her on board and I said to her I was like I can give you the hours that you know anytime, blah, blah. Anyway, that week I had fucking four clients like drop off and I was like I was probably one of them no, we, we worked out a deal.
Speaker 1:We worked out a deal. But I was like I felt bad. But I was like I felt bad. But I was like I'm not fucking doing this properly and like I knew I'd get my check in and Jess would be like Emma, what are you fucking doing? Smacking me on the ass? I'm like can't be fucked, yeah, no.
Speaker 2:And like to be honest, like that happened. And then this week we literally just hit a new massive milestone to a 20k month. So, at the end of the day, like, I wish we had a button where it was like I know, I know, like, and that's massive, because, like, if I didn't lean into that and I said to shay at the start, I pushed it away yeah, and, and I kept telling myself, like you know what?
Speaker 2:what leaves, like it's always money is so, um, what's the word? Fucking baby brain, like it's always going to come back to you it's an energy right yeah, it's always going to come back, so the more you like, I guess, focus on being an energy if you're going to put money into something it's going to come back yeah, I'd like do this little manifestation, like ritual thing, where I say that money, the money that I spend, comes back tenfold.
Speaker 1:So like I have my little like affirmations that I say every day and that's one of the money that I spend comes back tenfold. Because, right, like, I've just like obviously investing in Sonia, right, that's expensive.
Speaker 1:But I've just brought in these new treatments Right, One of them being nanoplasty. It fucking cost me a good couple of grand just to purchase. So like I've got to do a fair few of them to make like it's an amazing product you know, people are going to fucking love it Like it's like one of those things where you've got to put the, you've got to like spend money to make money?
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely. And that's one thing. Like, actually, when I signed up with Tam, tam is very expensive for the 12 months and Logan was like he did not want me to invest into it and I was like, well, well, I can see when you're at a point, too, where you feel stuck and you're like I want to get to that next level, but how the fuck do I get there?
Speaker 1:like you need to invest, otherwise you're literally just going to be staying in the same fucking place, like which is like and how I was before, like I hired sonia, but for me I was saving for a holiday, like that was my oh, I'm not gonna be, I'm not gonna lie, but that was my main priority, yeah.
Speaker 2:So now that I'm back, I'm kind of like okay, I'm ready to like step forward, level up, yeah, and I think like with, because there was a lot of scarcity there. But I thought to myself, like she, there's so many things that like I guess with myself that I needed, I needed to change, and that's like even just marketing and sales, like the fitness industry, you can't just like. It's not. Like when I first went online around COVID time, like I was fucking killing it then and I would post a photo. I would post, you know, and now, being pregnant, like I can't post a hot photo in a fucking bikini. You know what I mean. It's not about my body and that's how a lot of the industry kind of works. It's like it's very much so around your marketing your advertising.
Speaker 1:You're your biggest advertisement.
Speaker 2:You are. You're the billboard no one's going to see like a big fat person.
Speaker 1:who's working like a six-week program You're going to be like? Probably not. Exactly, but in saying that, too, like a good thing, like talking about navigating change. That's something that you could always like then using as stories and like yeah and no, no, but like using your pregnancy as a way to get like other pregnant women yeah in. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Like is that to your advantage, and that's what I've been talking a lot about like I guess, moving the business in a way and changing things like with myself, like I'm not taking another. You know, obviously, with being a mother, this isn't like a thing that I'm like with my identity. It's like I'm still Jess, but it's like I'm not going to be sitting here with my tits out anymore because even my like the men to women ratio, like I'm trying to change on my Instagram. So like I don't want men following me, I don't want men looking at my shit, I don't really care about them because they're not going to buy from me. Like, yeah, I've got a few male clients, but it's, you know minority, your ideal customer, client and what my niche is yeah.
Speaker 2:So that change within I guess, like even just how I'm like what I'm saying on Instagram as well is like, well, even just with my marketing, like a lot of it's around hormones and like, yeah, we'll be focusing on pregnancy and I do have actually some women that have started, but I think it's more so like I don't want to lose that bodybuilding side as well. So it's like, yeah, just learning how to like pivot with whatever you're going through and not losing those little parts that you've picked up, that you like you want to keep a hold of you know what.
Speaker 1:It'll be very interesting to have this conversation with you again once you have bob because, like you know, I've got a friend at the moment who is really not like she's had a baby and like she like is the best mom and it's changed her like for the better, like she's just had so much growth from it and like she's the best mom, but like she's really stuck with, like, like she, she kind of lost, like you do, you lose yourself in it a little bit and you sort of like lose your identity. You feel like you've lost your identity a little bit because everything's about Bob, you know. So she's really struggling to kind of navigate that change and come out of that.
Speaker 1:So it'll be very interesting to see how you're feeling Like literally like how you're feeling when that time comes. Yeah when that time comes, yeah um yeah, because, yeah, I think that's a massive one, because, like right, when you have a baby, like you give up all your like, like there's this child, that's like 100% dependent on you and, like you know, you give up, like all yourself, like you're not, like you're selfless yeah, you're not selfish with your time, like, yeah, you're completely selfless, so it's a massive thing to and I feel like everyone's like.
Speaker 1:Everyone has a different experience around that as well, because I'd like us depends on your support system as well exactly, you know like what your support system's like and all that sort of stuff as well, and if you're, like you know, mentally dealing with it, okay, like can you?
Speaker 2:and if you're still away from your baby, are you still doing things for yourself? Yeah, like some people should not be away from their baby, yeah. You know what I?
Speaker 1:mean Like they have to be around, like it's an anxiety thing, right. I mean, yeah, I don't know. Like I think that's a massive one becoming a mother, Like I can't wait to have that.
Speaker 2:Do that as a podcast with you With my nails, like I was going to stop getting nails done when you have a baby Well, you're not going to bite your baby's bum, yeah, but if they're not super long, like I have had many nephews and looked after many children in my life with nails and it is like obviously I wouldn't have as long nails as I was, but where I was going is like I was going to fully not have nails anymore. I was just going to keep them natural and just my own nails. And I was like no fuck that, because that's me. I was going to stop getting my lashes done. I'm like no fuck that, because I actually enjoy going to my lash lady. She's one of my greatest friends now and I hate it, yeah, but we talk shit for like that's our catch up.
Speaker 1:I just hate laying there with my eyes closed because I'm like it's like I don't know. I think I probably have adhd and that adhd is like trying to get out of me.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:Like I hate laying there with my eyes closed. That's why I got rid of them, yeah, but yeah, everyone's different. Everyone enjoys different things, but I love getting my nails done too.
Speaker 2:I know.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's like just something that I do for myself, like coming back to your self care and all that sort of stuff.
Speaker 2:And I like, if you're like you know, putting everything into this little human being and you're not doing anything for yourself, then that's where you're going to lose that side of yourself and you'll be hard to lean into that A hundred percent Change and be happy with it as well, because you'll feel like you know they're mums, that like, here we go. Well, they just like their life is so shit because they had, since they had shit.
Speaker 1:You know, yeah, like their life is so shit because they had, since they had shit, you know, yeah, oh, they're very negative.
Speaker 2:Like don't have kids.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Like when you're literally the amount of parents that say to me don't have kids. I'm like, wow, that's a really like yeah, I mean I love mine, but like on the flip side.
Speaker 2:It's like I've had so many girls like say it's the best thing they've ever like A hundred percent, Like you'll never love anything like you, love your children. A hundred percent, a hundred percent. Yeah, and these people, mind you, are all the ones that are still going to the gym, they're still eating clean, they're still doing all the things for themselves, but while being a good mum. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:Yeah, a hundred percent no one helping you like we're gonna drag your kids to fucking the gym and stick them in like you know well I call it the kid jail, the kids jail cell, because it's literally just like there's like little fence thing and some parents literally like just wheel their pram in there and leave the fucking lock the gate and leave the kid in there and you're just training, and there's just like these kids in there like like, I'm just like that's the worst thing ever.
Speaker 2:Like you can see them but I'm like I would not be wheeling my fucking frame in there, yeah there's actually one thing that, um, the gym on the coast, it's got like this massive place and it's called well, that's good impact gym. Yeah, they've got to be six months and stuff yeah, they've got to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like someone that actually take care of them, see that's obviously something that you'd have to do to invest into a gym that can probably help you, yeah, that sort of stuff. But yeah, like there's obviously options yeah, I don't know, I feel like, yeah, you should just um what's the word fuck? What's the word um welcome, you should just welcome.
Speaker 2:Change is what I'm trying to say sorry guys, definitely I was just having a massive mind blank.
Speaker 1:But yeah, I think that, like, at the end of the day, you really should just welcome change. And, going back to what sonia said, like whatever's meant for you, won't go past you same as like let it flow or let it go, like just try not to hold on to things and like harbor it and like, yeah, I feel like the biggest growth, amount of growth, will come from change or, like you know, things that you're like kind of going to do for yourself and things that you're just not going to push away.
Speaker 1:You know, and be scared of like fucking fear is where, like you know, back to my europe trip. Like fuck man, I was like shitting myself to go do that on my own and I fucking did it. It was the best fucking time of my life. Like you just have. Like you have no growth income zone. Like I had so much growth for that from that holiday.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, and that's like I see I've actually got a client at the moment and I see in her is that there's so much like fear of change and she's like she's just stuck in that like identity of this is who I am she doesn't even want like she can't go to the gym by herself. She's always got to have a friend there. She's paying, like she's obviously doing the coaching, but it's yeah, she just can't go do a program by herself she can't big things.
Speaker 1:That stops people from doing things, right literally, you know and like, and that's generally the biggest motivator to hold you and sit you in your seat and go.
Speaker 1:Don't do it people are afraid of change too. Because it's like, like with growth even, like you know, it can be scary because it's the unknown, right, like going to something that, like is a bit fearful. It's the unknown can be scary, but like at the end of the day, like when you're having those little like growth moments, like you'll have growth pains, right like you feel like like fuck, is this even worth it, or whatever, and you just keep going and it's just like you finally kind of get to a place where you literally, like you won't even realize, but one day you'll be like, oh fuck. Remember when, like yeah, I had weeks where I was making no fucking money and, like you know, I was struggling to keep my fucking head above the water, and now I've got two staff members that work for me. My business is profitable, like you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:Like I think it's like you make these little changes in your life and, like you know, it doesn't just happen overnight and I think the more that you do make little changes and step outside of your comfort zone, you're going to like open yourself up to being able to continuously keep doing that and then you obviously just become a person who's just so much more open to change.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know what I mean, yeah.
Speaker 1:Like obviously it comes with growing older and, like you know, having experiences. But yeah, like there's certain people like in my life, like even you look at people who are like in the party scene and they're still doing it at like 30. And it's fuck like, when are you gonna like make a change?
Speaker 2:but it's like they're. They couldn't be fearful of that too, like spending their weekends alone, by themselves without, yeah, all the people around them and yeah yeah, yeah, and I think, like back on what you said about like leaning into growth, like if you're, if you're constantly sitting back away from it, and like in staying inside of that comfort zone like you're gonna be stuck yeah, and how, like you're always going to be yeah, like you're always going to be a victim of your own like shit life really, because you're not going to be actually, you know, willing to stand up and make a change or to get things done.
Speaker 1:It's easy so much easier said than done for some people, like your client, like it's probably so much easier for us to sit here and just say like just fucking make a change. But like for her, it's something that she obviously struggles with. So it's like like if I could you know tell if anyone who was like struggling with change or like fearful of it, just make like a tiny little changes like throughout the day, like just start with something so small and like build on it. Actually it's just like have it stuck.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I heard on the mel robbins podcast. She interviewed, like this doctor and he was actually saying that like fear and like you're not wanting to change. It's like your resistance is you. Like you, you've got two negative, like two pains that's going to lead you to an outcome. So like, let's say, going to the gym, you're going to be in pain or you stay at home, you're going to be in pain.
Speaker 2:Pick your heart, yeah. And like you're, we're more conditioned to stay within the comfortable pain which is staying at home. So like, either way, the outcome's the same. It's the action that makes a difference and that's you getting off your ass and going to the gym. So it's like, rather than always focusing on the outcome, which is the pain, so pain of going to the gym, that's what we're like. We're comfortable to stay at home because we know that's still going to be painful. We're going to be the same, we're not going to change, but that's comfortable pain, whereas the gym there's people there it's scary, it's like gonna make my muscles hurt. That's painful, rather than thinking about the action. Like the I'm fucking stuck now I can't.
Speaker 2:logan always does that. You Now I can't. Logan always does that. He's like and yeah, Okay, oh, now you just put me on the bitch hard. I'm going to like, just keep my hair. I'm going to sit on my hands. So think about fuck that just killed my heart.
Speaker 1:That was so funny.
Speaker 2:Ego is like gotta fucking ego no um, yeah, think about the action, not the outcome. So I think actually the podcast I'm gonna actually give a. I said actually twice a little shout out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because it was so powerful.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna send it to my client, so it's how to get motivated even when you don't feel like it. So, mel robbins, the mel robbins podcast. Um, imagine she got us on a podcast that would be a vibe, that'd be amazing.
Speaker 1:Um, but yeah, that was a really powerful one from a doctor and he's like neuroscience and all that so how cool yeah, so I think like we've just rambled on for a while I know, but I feel like it was like good, there's some valuable stuff in there, I feel.
Speaker 2:I hope so there's well you tell us we love the feedback guys. I feel like fuck off, that is. That is not. I'm gonna literally sit on my hands every time we do a podcast now, because I just get too or I'm like All right guys. You do that. Thank you for listening.
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