Show Up Uncut
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Our tips for keeping calm in chaos
This episode discusses strategies for maintaining calm during the chaotic year-end season, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and managing stress effectively. The hosts share personal experiences and actionable tips for self-care that can help listeners navigate the busy holiday period while prioritizing their mental health.
• Exploring December’s chaotic nature
• Discussion on managing work hours and boundaries
• Importance of implementing strict cancellation policies
• Recognizing the silent impact of stress on well-being
• Techniques for effective self-management and delegation
• The role of mindfulness and regular exercise in stress reduction
• Acknowledging personal limits and saying no when necessary
• Encouragement to prioritize self-care during busy times
• Building harmonic routines for stability and support
• Final thoughts on embracing growth in the new year
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Welcome back to Show Up.
Speaker 2:Uncut with.
Speaker 1:Em and Jess.
Speaker 2:I was about to. I'm like am I meant to say Show Up, uncut? I feel like it's been a while. Hello guys, we are talking about keeping calm in the chaos. Thought this was good to go into the new year.
Speaker 1:Yes, it's been a while since we've caught up, so there's been a lot of shit going on in each of our lives.
Speaker 2:Yeah, there has, and I feel like it's always a learning curve. It's either a lesson or a blessing.
Speaker 1:100 to say that, but it's funny. I always feel like I find myself in these situations, especially towards the end of the year, like because, for us, being hairdressers, our busiest wants to get our busiest time is december, but like one thing, I tried this thing this year which I'm like. This is like a little hot tip for any other hairdressers out there. Actually, it's just come to my mind so my hair's looking amazing, yeah I know it's the best treatment thermal repair treatment.
Speaker 1:Come see me. It's a fucking best. It repairs your split ends. It's the best.
Speaker 2:Hey, yeah, fucking best especially when I like when I straighten it, I feel like so much smoother and it doesn't feel like it.
Speaker 1:Not, yeah, fuck, it's so good, like people, I think. Just think it's like a you know marketing scam. I can't. It works it. Yeah, I just wait. Whatever we're unfiltered here. Um, no, so like what I have been, what I did this year, because, like, by the end of December we're fucked, like you work extra hours, like you're completely fucked.
Speaker 1:This year I was like, let's just open up some extra hours on the Saturday before Christmas and we'll work Christmas Eve, because Christmas Eve is a Tuesday this year, so we normally open that day but we're only doing 10 to 5, so we're doing a shorter day, but they're the only extra hours that we're doing. Yeah, we're probably going to end up working back some days because we're so busy, but usually we'll open up extra days, extra afternoons, like we end up doing like probably like at least an extra 10 hours within that week and we get to the end of the year and we're flogged. Yeah, but then november is super fucking quiet, so we make no fucking money. I can't pay any bills in november, and then december we're fucking flogged off our fucking thing. I'm trying to play catch up this year. I've just decided we'll work those extra couple of hours on that saturday before christmas and then we'll do the tuesday till five. Right, we actually aren't dead in november, which I was like this is such a smarter way for us to work. So I was like to the girls. I was like next year we're not doing any extended hours. Yeah, if people want their head on, they're gonna have to come in november. Yeah, because financially it's not visible for me.
Speaker 1:I struggle in november. Um, sometimes I don't get paid. So then december I'm playing catch up. I've still made basically no fucking money. I've got to pay the girls two weeks whole annual leave. Like you know what I mean. It's a very stressful time and I'm burnt the fuck out and so, and the girls are burnt out, like we need that time off. So working this way has been so like it's just. I'm just like fuck, that's just like such a big thing that I feel like maybe other people might need to hear. Like that work by appointment systems yeah, systems that like if people only have like you're in control of your book, you're in control of the appointments you take, so if you don't open those extra hours, they have to come and see you in those in november, and so then you're not like, obviously no, december's exhausting boundaries, yeah 100 100, yeah, 100.
Speaker 1:And so, yeah, that's just been one massive thing that I was just like because I'm sick of feeling this way. I'm sick of being up, I'm sick of being down, I'm sick of feeling fucking burnout, like, but we'll get there, because I'm pretty on the edge, it's just gonna happen with everything going on in my life. But, yeah, no, like it's like. Yeah, that's one massive tip. That was super random and I threw that in there, but, like, I just felt like some people might need to hear that because we all think, fuck, we've got all these clients, we need to fit them all in and like, because you empathize and like, you're like, you know whatever.
Speaker 2:But yeah, no, like, if you manage your time properly, you're not going to find yourself in those fucking shitty situations I feel like being in the fitness industry like this is a time where a lot of people are trying to hustle harder and because everyone wants to drop off, yeah, and they want to enjoy themselves.
Speaker 2:It's funny because, like I look at, last year, in november, december, january, it was quite like very quiet for me, whereas it's completely different this year it's like it's picking up a lot, but I feel like over the years, even just in the on the gym floor, like we've always, because, yeah, you're losing so much income, yeah, so in the fitness space it's like you don't get time off around. Christmas time, unless you plan and you're ready to stop everyone's debits and you're ready to take that, that's right, you've got to be ahead of the game there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you're constantly like.
Speaker 2:I constantly found myself battling this thing where I'd just be like I didn't want to spend any fucking money because I was like I just don't want to pay myself and you don't want to go on holiday, then either.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't want to pay myself because I'm scared, because I know that this really quiet time is coming, so I'm going to sacrifice a wage so that I know I have safety money there. Like it was just toxic as fuck to myself and it's like would we get to the point where I'm exhausted and I'm like why the fuck am I doing this? Yeah, so like, yeah, totally. Like you've, like, you've got a plan and then like you know that way, like things are still running smoothly and you can plan so much easier for those, yeah, times and I think that's as you said, with like your appointment system, like having them boundaries as a business for sure, and like even things like this time cancellation policy like we used to just be like, oh it's fine, because you'd felt feel bad changing your mindset and being like no, I have a fucking business to run, I have thousands of dollars of bills to pay every single week.
Speaker 1:If you waste my time, I can't get. I can't feel that time. I had a client cancel the other day for a full fucking color correction. That was six hours of my fucking day, that's nearly my entire fucking day done, and I was like bitch, you paying your cancellation fee because that ain't cool, like no, and then I'm I'm sad, like you know, without any fucking money to like cover that time. Like it's just. Like you know, people need to understand that we obviously we provide a service, but you coming and sitting in that chair is literally how we get paid. We trade our time for you and that's yeah. You know like, and you have to abide by that. You have to make it a thing because otherwise people will just disrespect you and just continuously think, oh, they're not going to charge me, so that's fine, whereas they learn their lesson and, like everyone has to, when people book appointments with us, they have to agree with our cancellation policy anyway. So like you can't fight me on it.
Speaker 2:You agreed, you ticked a box to agree, so yeah, and I feel like, if they do it again, like I've got two friends one does my lashes and the other I told her to go to my lash lady yeah and she's like I could have fucking punched, not gonna say her name in the face of the day, and I was like why? And she's like, oh, I sent her, like her, um, what's it called?
Speaker 2:deposit yeah confirmation for the lashes, um, the day before, and she's like, yeah, I'm coming. And then the next day she asked if she could come in earlier. If not, it's all good. And then she was like, oh, I actually don't need that appointment anymore. And like, mind you, she charges, like she's, you know, for her hour it's like a hundred and I don't know, um, it's expensive, like, and. But she does really really good lashes handmade.
Speaker 2:Like she's incredible at what she does and it's like she is living by herself, pays 600, 650 rent. You know what I mean. Like she does she's got a child, like I was just thinking about it all and I'm like bitch like you, literally like you. People don't understand running a business. It's not just like like you, still you get to rock up at work and you still get paid.
Speaker 1:Yeah, people think that like because you're a business owner, you have all this fucking money. It's a fucking fucking lie. It's not like that. You guys would have no what.
Speaker 1:This is why so many businesses fail, because people think I'm going to do this and I'm going to be rich takes forever to build up a clientele, takes forever to make your money back on the cost that it spent you to get there, and it also takes like ages for you to actually start making some form of a profit. And it fucking costs a lot of fucking money. Yeah, I'm telling you right now my business costs me five thousand dollars a week to keep the fucking doors open. Yeah, that's a lot of fucking money.
Speaker 1:You might think you're one person coming in for like what a color correction. That might be like a nearly five hundred dollar service, right, and you probably think, oh, we're smashing those out every fucking day and make it no, no, you're six hours of my time, like you're six hours out of my entire fucking week that I've now made no money. So, yeah, that is a massive loss to me, like our that's. The hard thing with hairdressing is that it takes a lot of time, so when people do cancel, it's a lot of time now empty with nothing there to do me. Being a business owner, I've always got something to fucking do, but it's a lot of time now empty with nothing there to do Me. Being a business owner, I've always got something to fucking do, but yeah, it's a lot of time.
Speaker 2:It's still a loss.
Speaker 1:It's a massive loss. It's a huge fucking loss. What do you mean? I fucking take a day off so I can fucking do my admin. It gets all done. I'm standing around like well, fuck, like. Yeah, it's just like a level of respect and I think like people will respect you when you start actually like you got to implement.
Speaker 2:Yeah, implementing those things that you say you're going to implement. Yeah, or tell them like you can know if they've done A hundred percent, if they're a repeated offender, if people don't show up, I literally block you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, there's literally like a thing in our system that blocks the client and if they try to book in online, it says sorry, you have to contact the salon to make an appointment and if they do, I'm like you didn't come. You have wasted my time three times now. Three strikes and you're out like yeah, like no, I can't afford.
Speaker 1:I can't afford to be having somebody on like that. And if they don't show up, they get charged half of what their service was. So, yeah, good, like you know. And if they don't pay it, well, you're not coming back. You've got to pay that too, yeah.
Speaker 2:Like it's not cool.
Speaker 1:Send you to the debt collector. It's not cool. Yeah, yeah, literally Imagine that.
Speaker 2:So, in the midst of all that, like when I guess these things do happen, being able to, I feel like breathing before reacting.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Especially when life is getting hectic this time of year. 100, I believe that like, even even like, when you you're a fuckwit, yeah, so breathing before reacting, so like, if you're like with I don't want to mention names With my Lash Lady, she's like very.
Speaker 1:Give her business a shout out, or are we not?
Speaker 2:No, they weren't. I don't know if she was. It's fuck. I don't even know her Business name. That's really bad, hey, what's?
Speaker 1:my business name.
Speaker 2:Emphasized hair Bella. Mia by Chinchia.
Speaker 1:There you go.
Speaker 2:Bella, mia, sweet, I was going to say that but I just didn't want to say it wrong because I'm good at that. But yeah, she's somebody that's like she doesn't get walked over, but I even had to tell her to implement a cancellation policy. I've been going to her for years and I feel like in moments like that you need to be, especially if you're like I don't know, either like a really reactive person or you're somebody that just you know gets walked over. Yeah, like actually sitting back in, like before you react or say, oh no, no, it's fine, babe, don't worry, we'll just book you in for tomorrow, whatever like sit with it, sit with it, yeah, breathe like, take some breaths and and really think about like what's going to be the best for you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because, I think that's something that I've always done in business is like like cancellation policies, I've got a two-week cancellation policy and I'd be like, oh, don't worry about it. Like yeah you haven't done your check-ins for the last two weeks, or? Whatever it's like that's not my fucking fault that you haven't been showing up. That's the like I need to replace this client now.
Speaker 1:So exactly exactly the same, isn't it? Like it's 100%. I totally agree, yeah, um, talking about that, though, like about stopping and breathing that's a funny thing that you bring up because I feel like I feel like this year especially, I am a very reactive person. Like if someone pisses me off, like like this isn't even to do with business, I'm not going to react in a poor way. If you piss me off at work, I'll have a very good customer service face, but no, like if someone pisses me off, I can just straight, just be like instantly pissed off. I've got a short fuse attack. You know what I mean and I just can be an asshole.
Speaker 1:But one of my biggest things this year is that, like I do do that now.
Speaker 1:I'm like okay, and I stop and I process and I think, before I speak, like that situation I was telling you that happened on Tuesday.
Speaker 1:I'm not gonna explain the situation because it was shit, but in that moment I was like anything that I say to this person right now is going to be taken in a bad way because they're in a bad place.
Speaker 1:So I was just like I'm just going to not agree, like not exactly agree, but just say okay, no worries, and just let it all like process it and then come back and talk about it the next day. Because, one, I'm not going to be highly heightened, it's not going to cause any more drama than what the drama is already there. And three, I'm going to be coming at it from like a more logical mind rather than like an emotional way and like I have been doing that all year and like that's one thing I'm really fucking proud of, because I have always been like short fuse, fucking yeah, skits out crazy person, whereas like yeah, that's a massive thing that I've been really, really trying to work on this year, like that's a self-development thing, obviously, but yeah, I've just basically like wanted to be a better person and just like to be a better person. You have to fucking work on yourself and do those things. So and be aware and it's.
Speaker 2:It's so easy to be like that, especially when you are overwhelmed.
Speaker 1:You're 100, you feel like you're at the brink of yeah, losing your mind because you put so much on your plate, yeah like.
Speaker 2:I know that that's exactly who I used to be 100 probably like in it, I don't know like even last year I was very reactive on certain things and like I've learned from that. Um, I don't know, and I feel like now it's maybe because I'm in a more like a calmer spot. Is that yeah?
Speaker 1:I'm playing footsies with you.
Speaker 2:I'm like is that, like you can't tell me, going to tell me something?
Speaker 1:No, I was just playing footsies.
Speaker 2:I wasn't like Logan does it, I didn't, he's like shut up. And yeah, he's like you can be like, shut the fuck up. Yeah, like I feel, like I I don't know, I think I've spoken about it in the last podcast Like Luke Logan and I, we're very like, we're he, we both are, we're very short-fused.
Speaker 1:We're very short-fused and we used to like name-kick yeah, it would be like yeah, constantly.
Speaker 2:It would be like if he's had a bad day at work or something tonight or I feel like I've got a lot on and then it would just turn into like we'd just go at each other. But it would just start from one little small thing, which would turn into a massive thing.
Speaker 2:Whereas now it's kind of like we take ourselves away from the situation and don't talk for, you know, 10 minutes, 20 minutes, like we just cut the conversation then and there. And then, when we do come back to each other, it's always like a kiss and a hug and then we'll talk about it yeah, and I feel like that kiss and hug actually like allows us to be loving again.
Speaker 2:Step out of that, yeah and like actually realize, okay, we do fucking love each other. This is stupid, yeah, um, but, yeah, definitely, keeping calm in chaos. I feel like it's hard sometimes, especially when you are at that point, like being this time of the year yeah, um you know you look at people driving like they're all fucking car accidents yeah car accidents are huge this year.
Speaker 1:Like slow down people. Yeah, slow it down. I'm the same. Even driving here, yeah, I was like this chick, like I like merged into the lane and then this chick is riding my ass. I've had to put the brakes on and, bro, I couldn't even see her, like fucking bonnet. All I could see was like her head. I couldn't even see the bottom half of the windscreen and I'm like I'm about to short fuse. I'm like, bro, like just slow down. What are you in such a rush for? If you're going to be in such a rush, fucking such a rush, fucking leave earlier.
Speaker 2:Like time management, like so time management out we have. We live on a main road and this morning we went down to the beach. Logan took the dogs for a walk and then I just did some journaling and some this. Um, it was like reversing out and they were like the lady that was coming across the corner, like there would have been like two minutes' worth of like time.
Speaker 1:So he was like reversing out, but she was flooring, there was heaps of time, huh. She was flooring it.
Speaker 2:She must have been. But she was like she ended up like slowing down. And then he looked in the rear view mirror and he's like look at this bitch, she's fully like putting her hands up. So I put the window down and I was just sitting. I was like I didn't really want to go. I did. I was like fuck you, oh my God. And then he started like she was like she was this old lady and she's like the way she was doing it. But it was funny because we were laughing about it and I normally get angry at Logan if he, like you know, goes fucking.
Speaker 2:You know if he does anything, but it was like it wasn't coming from when I did it. I was coming from like a more like you look like a fucking idiot Stop it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it wasn't like a fuck you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, there was no anger inside me, but it was so funny because the way it pissed her off I was like, okay, you need to fucking have a holiday bitch, yeah, like something's going on in her life.
Speaker 1:That's funny because the other day, like it was just like one of those days where I was just fucking exhausted and I always let people merge in right. But this situation, I'm literally nearly home and like I'm literally in front of this guy. I hate it when they speed up. I literally am in front, I'm in front and I put my blinker on and this fucking asshole speeds up and literally sits on this car's ass, to the point I had to put my brakes on. Like I literally had to like slam my brakes on and I'm like, what the fuck is that about? Like just let me in.
Speaker 1:You're not going much further, but I was in a bad. I was in a fucking bad mood. Everything was going wrong for me and I was fucking like on the horn. I'm like, fuck you out the window. And I'm like literally had my head out the window. I'm like, fuck you. And then, like I was sat in the car and I was fuming, and then he was being a fuckwit and like slowed right down. I'm like, why did you do that? Then you've just done it to purely piss me off for no fucking apparent reason, yeah, and like it just infuriated me anyway, and then I just sat there for a second. I was like I've got my business on the back of me car. I need to stop with that shit because people will be like jesus, like go there like you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:But like that shit annoys me because I'm like that shit, like just be a fucking nice person, let people in. I always, I always let people in. It's annoying. Why do you have to be that person? Like you're literally all the way back here and then you've put your fucking foot on the accelerator just so I can't merge, just to be one car behind you and you're not going to get anywhere, you're not getting further, and then you want to be a prick and slow down. Anyway, I'm just like, what is your point here?
Speaker 2:It's like they get in. What's the word? It's like an ego.
Speaker 1:It's like if you're going to put your finger up at me, I'm going to fucking slow down. I'm in power.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like it makes them feel good to piss you off even more. It's spitefulness.
Speaker 1:Good on ya, fuck them.
Speaker 2:This is a very what are we talking about again?
Speaker 1:now need to have mini month 100, 100, our lesson is like I think, look, to be honest, we are both really really good at this sort of stuff usually, but sometimes no one's fucking perfect. Sometimes you're going to have a little bit of a breaking point.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, and that was it for me, and that's why we wanted to do this podcast, though, is because, being this time of the year, it's so easy to be. You know, no matter how much self-development you do, no matter like, how much you've been working on yourself, you're still going to have those little I don't want to say trigger triggers but you're going to be built up to a point where it's like you know. All right, I need to step back yeah, I think that's where you're at now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I'm kind of at a point where, like, there's all these things happening in my life where that I have like I literally have to do them. Like that it's happening, I have to do it and I have to show up for that. But it's a lot of. There's a lot of stuff like that's going on. So it's kind of like, okay, I can only kind of spread myself so far, and it's at the point now where I'm just constantly exhausted. I can't sleep properly. I'm very anxious. Like this week I've struggled to eat because I'm very, I'm just anxious.
Speaker 1:I'm just like in that kind of a space and so like, yeah, these are things that I have to get done and I have to attend to, but it's kind of just finding little moments to pull back and show up.
Speaker 1:Just show up for the things that you have to and try and show up for yourself as much as you can.
Speaker 1:Like I was saying to Jess like I have a 30th next, next Saturday night, and like she's one of my friends from like a long time ago and like I would love to go. But I just feel like and I'm the sort of person that like I still want to show up for you, even if I just pop in. But I'm literally that fucking exhausted at the moment that, like even just having to get ready and go and stay there for a couple of hours even if I don't drink it's just like another thing that I have to do in the midst of all of this. Like I'm probably gonna have to still deal with all this stuff that morning and then like, oh fuck, I've got to do this too and I've got to do that, and now I have to go to this event, like, and then I think you're not and you just, and then you just go into the next day just being like it's like fucking, you know you have like only so many spoons right in a day.
Speaker 1:You can't be like just use those spoons in that day, don't take from tomorrow's spoons, because then you're gonna end up with no fucking spoons.
Speaker 1:Like it's like the cup is half full, half empty, kind of thing. Like you know, like you can't just keep pouring from an empty cup because you're just not going to show up in your best, the best state. So like obviously then I'll probably just hit her up and just say, look, I got a lot going on and good friends are always gonna understand. But like I literally at the moment just need a day where, like I've seen her just before that like I just need a day where I can just like do me, like if I want to go to the beach, if I want to, like you know, read a book or like whatever, I just need a day where I don't have to do anything so that I can just show up for myself, do you yeah and do me and it's just not gonna happen like that's literally because, as I said, december's such a busy period for us that's not going to happen like I.
Speaker 1:You know, I've made this big. I'll just say it out loud.
Speaker 1:I've bought a house, so I get my settlements settlements on it's very exciting but also very stressful at this time of year. I get my keys on um Friday, the 6th of December. Now that's our busiest month and I'm like I'm gonna have to start doing some things to this house on my weekend. So I'm planning every weekend slowly gonna start moving in so that I can properly move in just before Christmas and be have that time off for me to settle. I'm not going to fully move in before, like in the midst of the craziness of December, because I'm going to feel unsettled. I've got all this stuff happening Like I just I've just made that decision for myself and like I'm not in a rush or anything to be out of where I am.
Speaker 1:So but for me too, like I know that my weekends and my spare time in December now is going to be jam packed with shit that I need to do in this house. That literally next weekend is literally the only weekend that I'm going to actually have to be able to rejuvenate and fill up my cup. So I need to. I need to just make this commitment to myself and not go and you know, and like not feel guilty for that either. Yeah, which is like the big thing. It's like you know, don't feel guilty for taking care of yourself, because like you're just gonna run yourself into the ground, which is like where I feel like I'm kind of at at the moment. I'm just like exhausted and I'm like just trying to be there for everyone else and I'm just feeling like oh, like yeah, give me a break.
Speaker 2:You know, I feel like that's really powerful though, because, when you like, if you can actually be self-aware of that yeah and know when you're getting to that point, like I know, so many of my clients where they get to a point where they, you know, spend however much time, you know weeks in bed, or you know they get really depressed because their mental health goes really shit.
Speaker 2:And then they stop going to the gym, they start eating well, they stop showing up for their friends and family and you know, and then that lasts for a month or so and then they finally kind of get over it and get through it and go fuck, like I've literally just spent that last. Yeah, once I wasted that time but you know had to. They were forced to step back.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I actually know somebody as well that you don't want to get to that point yeah, from stress they had um seizures, many seizures my god, stress is a silent killer yeah, how bad their stress got.
Speaker 2:So it's not something that you kind of want to take it as like oh, I'm just stressed. Like when people say I'm just stressed, I'm always stressed, I'm this, and that it's like that's not a good thing no, you should actually be getting on top of that.
Speaker 1:I am a firm believer that stress is what forms these bad illnesses and chronic illnesses in our bodies. It is yeah, for sure it is, Because it's slowly just eating you away.
Speaker 2:It's the biggest killer, for even just with metabolic disorders and stuff that's like heart attacks, high cholesterol, that can all be accumulated from stress as well. Yeah, so stress is like infertility yeah stress like is really bad for.
Speaker 1:So it's bad for everything.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah so stress is yeah, don't fucking stress just do things to help relieve the stress and the way I believe is like to break that down, yeah, break down what needs to be done, yeah, and if you need to delegate things, like during this time, delegate it If you like, because sometimes I feel like and this is where I was at, especially at the end of the comp season is that I had so much that I needed to get done, especially, you know, not only just within the business. I had uni to finish off and also fucking sorting out. I didn't.
Speaker 2:I feel like the nursery could have waited, but also there's just so much that needs to be done that I didn't want to just oh, it'll come, because if I come out early or what if something happened? You know, I just needed like things to be set and that's my brain as well. I need things to be, I need to know when things are being done.
Speaker 1:Yeah, um, so breaking things down and actually like going okay, well, this week I can focus on, you know, my uni assignment and then work and kind of step back yeah, prioritize what you actually can, what needs to be done yeah, break it down and what can be kind of done on a different day or a different week in a big mountain. I feel like that's the that's where you start to get so overwhelmed.
Speaker 1:I love a planner like a business planner yeah because, like you can just tick, like, go down your list, like figure out what your top priorities are and just work through everything, yeah, on a day-to-day basis, because that really helps me, because that makes me go okay, I don't have to do everything today because I have a bad habit. If I have to do things, I have to do it right now. Yeah, whereas if I physically write it down and I've planned it in my planner, I know mentally oh well, I have to do that this day, I have to do that that day and I have to do this on this day, like which really helps me mentally because, like I'm a lot like you in that sense. It's like I've got so much to do, it has to all get done like right now, kind of thing. Like it doesn't have to get done right now. Well, some of it does.
Speaker 2:But majority doesn't, yeah, and what you can't get done, just move it to the next day or whatever. Exactly, yeah, I feel like that's probably one thing that we tend to do is that we see everything as like, I don't know like, then we start pushing aside, like the gym and things that are actually going to be really beneficial for us because we just think that like there's so much to be done, yeah, and everything else has to be like neglected.
Speaker 1:I think that's where it's important, yeah to like make sure you still make those commitments because, like, even though I'm, like I was saying to my partner the other day, like I have, like I have, like you know, more like smaller goals, medium goals and then like more of like a long-term goal kind of system that I do but my smaller goals are more goals, like on a daily basis. So, like I, like you know, I'll do like I don't really do coaching anymore, but I still make the commitment to myself to do 10 to 12k steps a day yeah I still make the commitment to go to the gym five times a week.
Speaker 1:Like, I still make those little commitments to myself, even in the midst of all of that, because I know that that's stuff that makes me feel good. Or like journaling meditation, like those little commitments to myself, even in the midst of all of that, because I know that's stuff that makes me feel good, or like journaling meditation, like those little commitments that I make to myself, they're like non-negotiables, that like I do because I know that that's going to make me feel better. If I don't actually make time for those things, I'm going to feel way worse than what I currently do. Yeah, so I think that's also an important tip, like you know, even though, like shit might be getting crazy plenty of days better, and, like you know, try and prioritize things. Yeah, and sometimes, though, it does feel like everything's going wrong, like the same, like the week I've had, it's just been like fuck me. Like the simple things aren't being simple anymore, it's like everything, and you're just like what the fuck?
Speaker 2:yeah, what the fuck yeah, have you still been going to the gym?
Speaker 1:but yeah, and hitting my 10, 12k steps. Yeah, it does, it makes and actually I channel I've been hitting pbs, I channel that energy through the gym.
Speaker 2:Yeah, um, yeah, but yeah for sure yes, I feel like that is basically, I don't know, breaking it down and also actually having mantra. What's your mantra?
Speaker 1:I don't have a mantra like, but I tell myself every day when things are chaotic, like do you have something that you would tell yourself?
Speaker 2:I know for my, like, for me, I'm like I said to you yesterday, like you can do tough things.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like that's what I tell myself is that when things are hard and mentally like I feel like there's so much on my plate or I can't get through it I don't know, even with my gym sessions, like not so much now because I'm a little pussy when I yeah, like a little mantra that you live by there is, but I can't actually there is something that I said how aj all the time, but I can't remember it right now.
Speaker 1:My brain is mush. I apologize. Yeah, I feel like I've done pretty good actually today with how fucking fucked in the head I feel at the. Moment um, but yeah, no, I don't know live, laugh, laugh that's yeah yolo no, I don't know. I just kind of like I probably wouldn't say I have a mantra, but I definitely tell myself positive stories. Like you know, it's all worth it. Or like you know, this it's a thing like shit's only temporary, you know yeah, you're gonna get through it.
Speaker 1:Like I kind of I still kind of, yeah, have those like little affirmations that I kind of will, yeah, tell myself or I'll write them down in times of like need I guess, probably not something I tell myself every single day, but like, yeah, when I, you know, even just like going to the gym, like in my mind I'm just going to the gym, like in my mind I'm like going to the gym is going to make you feel like this morning.
Speaker 1:I got up at five and I'm like I'm fucking so tired. I'm about to. I'm like walking around like a zombie. I had one eye open walking around like this because I was so tired, but I knew going to the gym was going to make me feel better and it did.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, and then because I'm of my anxiety, which is probably something we can talk about, but like I struggle with like really bad anxiety and like I've learned to kind of learn how to handle that myself over the years and figured out what works for me. But, like you know, I've been struggling to like actually eat things, like chew it and swallow it, because I'm just like chewing it, like like it's gonna make me spew. I feel like I'm gonna spew by swallowing it. So like, instead of making oats this morning I had made a smoothie. So like I put oats in my smoothie, did berries and banana and like all that sort of stuff and had that and that was so much easier for me to consume.
Speaker 1:Or like even salads like I had a salad yesterday which was easier for me to eat than eating like chicken and rice, like does that make sense? Like a bit lighter and like, yeah, like I don't know, just trying to figure out what I can actually swallow, as fucking weird as that sounds. But yeah, like when my anxiety is very high, I really struggle to eat, which is my like. Literally I can't swallow it. You know, when you like make yourself sick of something, like you've eaten it so many times you physically can't chew it and swallow it.
Speaker 2:That's the feeling that I get when I'm very anxious and like highly strong, yeah nothing tastes good.
Speaker 1:Nothing like it could even be like a lolly, like I could put that in my mouth and be like spit it out. You know what I?
Speaker 2:mean my dog when I give you, yeah, literally, peanut butter the other day. Fuck, it was so funny and it was peanut butter on bread and it was peanut butter and bread and it was stuck on the top of his mouth and he was like yeah, yeah, yeah, it was so cute.
Speaker 1:Oh, stop it. I love dogs.
Speaker 2:I love my dog I'm so obsessed with my dog yeah, gorgeous that's one way to keep calm and chaos is yeah, cuddle your dog, yeah 100, I would be a fucking met.
Speaker 1:I don't know how people don't have dogs especially. I mean, I'm not really a cat person, so cats could be a similar thing to some people. But like I, literally, if I didn't have her to come home to she's so I'll have a bad day and she's so excited to see me doing zoomies and I'm like I love you. Day instantly made better. Yeah, you know, yeah, get a dog.
Speaker 2:There you go just be prepared for the vet bills vet bills are not a good time.
Speaker 1:I just wigged out and thought it was monday. I was like, oh my god, it's friday. Oh guys, all right, all righty, let's call it yeah I feel like that was a good one.
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